Happy High Status: How to Be Effortlessly Confident
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And in case you missed the picture of Margaret Atwood giving her blessing to the first manuscript copy of Happy High Status, here it is.
Initially, this was anathema to me. I thrive on being around other people and, as much as I love my immediate family, I crave the interactions and unpredictability of being out and about in the world. The pandemic felt to me like being in prison, only you were not allowed to talk to or stand near any prisoners you were not related to. I started swimming outdoors just to meet people. In the early days, fellow swimmers – quite rightly – wanted to make sure we swam 2 metres apart at all times. I complied, and felt more parts of me die. I couldn’t wait for it to be over, whatever “over” meant. Personally, I consider this to be a learnt behaviour. Some may say you are born with it, like charisma and confidence, however I would disagree. Some will find the journey easier than others, however all require practice.
You understand the fundamental aspect of humans. They are bored. People are bored. People are begging to be seduced, to be led astray and come alive. The high status person gives them this gift. It disarms people immediately. Warmth creates connection and lowers the wall that are around people's ability to connect. 35. Have an air of effortlessness
Happy High Status is that moment when everything feels right and life is easy. When you know you're nailing a presentation. When you've finished a run you didn't want to go on. For some people, it's the feeling of waking up on their birthday. And for most of us, it's just a fleeting sensation.
People with Happy High Status rarely suffer negative interactions with other individuals. They tend to find they are well received by the majority of people, with the exceptions being those with their own insecurities. Happy High Status is a state of mind usually seen in celebrities, however, is more relevant to the ‘average Joe’ than you might think. From a celebrity standpoint, it is where their status is so high that they are confident that, whatever comes their way, their status will be retained. Pause until you have their full attention. If they are distracted don’t continue the conversation. 12. Think big thoughts
For a public speaker, it means projecting that you belong up there on stage (Groskop looks at Michelle Obama’s speaking performances over a period of ten years – and claims that in her early ones, she visibly disliked the publicity).
Healthy entitlement is the sense that you have the right to want things, even if you might not get them. Or you can be like Conor McGregor’s level of entitlement: Watch this from 3:12 onward. 22. Master how to have great first impressions